When you recognise anger as an essential and necessary emotion, you stop being afraid of it. Only when you’re no longer afraid of it can you start managing its manifestations.
当你意识到生气是一种最基本的，最有必要的情绪的时候，你就不再害怕。只有当你不再害怕的时候你才能控制好愤怒。
There’s nothing wrong with being self critical, but when your negative self-talk holds you back from personal, emotional and professional growth you need to act.
自我批评没有问题，但是消极的言论会让你个人的、情感上、专业上所需要的成长滞后。
When you embrace your imperfections you’re more likely to think about how to improve, rather than what’s ‘wrong’ with you, which over a long period of time, can lead to stress and depression. Take a more positive and constructive view of yourself and you’ll achieve more and be happier.
当你接受了你的不完美，你才能更多的思考如何提高，而不是思考哪里出了问题，并且长此以往会给你自己很大的压力，让你自己抑郁。对自己有积极地、有建设性的观点，你会做好很多方面，变得更快乐。
3. They focus on the problem, not the person
他们对事不对人
Accidents and mistakes happen everyday and while it’s easy to blame, getting angry at the person you believe responsible is not going to fix the problem. Stop wasting your time with un-constructive finger pointing and get on with business.
意外和错误每天都会发生，责备，对那个你相信他有责任却没解决问题的人发火很容易。不要再浪费你的时间去毫无意义的指责别人，继续工作吧。
4. They don’t hold a grudge
他们不会怀恨在心
Holding a grudge doesn’t achieve anything. Moreover, it takes energy and effort to hold something against someone which over time, wears you down and contaminates your mind, leading to a negative world view. Let it go. Forgive and forget and be happier.
怀恨在心不会有任何结果。而且，随着时间的流逝还会消耗人的精力去记恨别人，让你消沉，污染你的内心，形成一种消极的世界观。放手吧。原谅别人，忘记不愉快，做一个快乐的人。
5. They meditate
他们做冥想
Meditation can help you deal with stress and anxiety which are precursors to anger. Regular meditation regulates levels of cortisol, a hormone released during times of stress. It also boosts serotonin, a so-called ‘feel good’ hormone that balances your emotions and can make you more aware of your feelings.
冥想能帮你应付会让人生气的压力和焦虑。定期的冥想能调节随着时间引起的皮质醇的水平，释放荷尔蒙。也会刺激血清素的分泌，一种被称为“感觉良好”的荷尔蒙，能帮助调整情绪，让你更能意识到自己的情感。
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